Assalammualaikum wr wb...

Closure in life is defined as an end to one chapter. It is the ending of a good or bad chapter with hopes that a better one would be written. But how do we end a chapter which had ended abruptly or undesirably ? How do we close a chapter that we have become so fond of ? How can we bear to close a chapter and bring solace to our lives ?

Closure especially on matters of the heart takes time and effort or just a shot in the arm. Above all however we have to learn to accept the situation in front of us and not ask "what if" or "why." Many times we cannot close a chapter in our lives because we keep asking ourselves "what if" or "why." If we keep wondering, what if this happened, what if that happened or why did things turn out this way, we would never be able to accept what has happened. To have the emotional connection shared with something or someone or experienced cut off abruptly is a hard thing to accept but it happens. The passing of a loved one is one great example of it. We tend to always ask ourselves, why I didn’t spend more time with that loved one or why I never told that individual how I felt. Similar to a relationship, we always wonder why and what if. Off course difference is that you’d never see the love one that passed on again. It is easier to get closure or even just sweep it under the rug. But when it has to do with someone you used to love and care about, things are a lot different. You’d see them again and they’d continue to torment you without having to say a word if you don’t seek to close the chapter.

Eventually we would find closure somehow or other. We always would to find ways to find closure on an issue or if not sweep it under the rug. To find this closure, the first thing we need to do therefore is ACCEPT SINCERELY that it is over. We would need to relinquish all glimmers of hope of any resurrections. We need to understand how we feel and conquer it. The problem is these things take time, effort or some major jolt to encourage the acceptance of the need to close the chapter.

Therefore we should always try to face our demons and not run from them. Accepting that something is the way it is and that it is for the best is a way to get closure.

Remember that only by fully accepting the conditions, would you be able to close the chapter and be able to move on.

Now that, that is written... I would like to write about something that I'm never good at... Hmmmmm..

I wonder if he realizes how much I care about him...
That I spend hours thinking about him...
Hours talking about him...
I wonder if he realizes that all my friends know all about him,
But he doesn't even know them.
Does it even cross his mind that someone right under his nose cares so much for him?
That everything makes me think of him....
Many song lyrics remind me of him.
Does it occur to him that the person who adores him is right in front of him?
I guess it's not that obvious.
One day I'll tell him everything...
How I've day-dreamed about us being together...
That I've dreamt of being in his arms...
Maybe one day I'll tell him,
But is today that day...

Way Back Into Love
I've been living with a shadow overhead,
I've been sleeping with a cloud above my bed,
I've been lonely for so long,
Trapped in the past,
I just can't seem to move on!

I've been hiding all my hopes and dreams away,
Just in case I ever need them again someday,
I've been setting aside time,
To clear a little space in the corners of my mind!

All I wanna do is find a way back into love.
I can't make it through without a way back into love.
Ooo hooow

I've been watching but the stars refuse to shine,
I've been searching but I just don't see the signs,
I know that it's out there,
There's got to be something from my soul somewhere!

I've been looking for someone to she'd some light,
Not somebody just to get me through the night,
I could use some direction,
And I'm open to your suggestions.

All I wanna do is find a way back into love.
I can't make it through without a way back into love.
And if I open my heart again,
I guess I'm hoping you'll be there for me in the end!

There are moments when I don't know if it's real
Or if anybody feels the way I feel
I need inspiration
Not just another negotiation

All I wanna do is find a way back into love,
I can't make it through without a way back into love,
And if I open my heart to you,
I'm hoping you'll show me what to do,
And if you help me to start again,
You know that I'll be there for you in the end!

Wassalammualaikum wr wb...